Good day to you all. Thanks for stopping by!
It’s October now. You know what that means? Halloween, spooky times, dark nights, TWO OF MY BOOKS ARE CURRENTLY ON FREE PROMOTION (Link below) and even more importantly…
2020 is nearly over.
But its not all been doom and gloom this year has it? Sure we’ve had our freedom infringed by something out of our control, but these things happen. Its easy to look at all the negatives in the world and what is currently going on, or as I much prefer to do, we can focus on the positives.
For example, if you live in the western part of the world, you are still one of the freest countries that have ever existed, ever, in the history of the world. Let that sink in for a moment.
You can buy food, drink fresh water at the turn of a tap, have a roof over your head and don’t have to worry about being abducted and sold into slavery at any moment.
The very fact you can even read this, means that you have been able to go to school, which is a lot more than can be said for a good amount of people on this planet.
I would like to take a moment of your time and talk about appreciation and mental resilience.
Mental fortitude training.
1 – Be happy with what you have and not what you don’t.
There is a saying that everyone wants what they don’t have. And this can vary massively. The man walking to work wishes he had a car. The person driving a car wishes he could have a nicer car. The perron that’s homeless wishes they had a home. The homeowner wishes they had a bigger home/better neighbourhood etc. You get the idea.
We are conditioned in this world to want the bigger and better, to never be satisfied. We are told that if we can just acquire X, be it a promotion, bigger house, better car, better clothes, then somehow our lives will be that bit more comfortable. It’s the lie that we are brought up to believe and we buy into it. But that’s what it is: A lie.
Be happy with what you have. That you wake up every morning. That you don’t have a chronic illness. That you have those around you that love and care for you. That you have clothes on your back and food and water available.
Its easy to be upset with what you want and don’t have, when its much better to appreciate the little things in life, and realise things aren’t actually as bad as we like to make out.
2 – Meditation.
The sound of that word makes people cringe some of the time. But why is the idea of being present in the moment so terrifying to a lot of people? Why simply sitting there and being alone with your breath so hard?
We spend a lot of our time being absent from ourselves, caught up on social media, work, household tasks etc, that we forget to help out ourselves with simple meditation, breading and self-refection.
Not only is it good to give the mind a break, (We have over 60,000 thoughts a day, and you think getting them to be quiet for five minutes is a bad thing?) but it has been shown to have enormous benefits to mental and physical wellbeing. Stress reduction and better sleep, to name but a few.
Try it out, if even for five minutes. There’s 24 hours in a day, and I bet you spend easily over two hours of them looking at pointless bullshit on your phone. Which brings me to my next point –
3 – Reduce screen time.
Whoa. Okay, I knew this seems like a big one. But is it really? Why do you have to spend so much of your time staring at a damn screen looking at other people’s lives? Not only has it been shown to make people feel sad and inadequate, its also a huge waste of time.
I found myself staring at my phone way to much over these past few months, and I have the screen time analytics to prove it. I then found that I was sleeping less, because I was on my phone in bed, or I was putting stuff off that I needed to do because I was too busy scrolling.
The human mind is designed to be alert, occupied, looking for berries, being wary of predators. The world has changed, but our reward systems in the brain have not. And we get exploited by social media companies to be hooked on the device at all times.
Limit yourself when it comes to social media. You’ll feel much better for it. Trust me on this.
4 – Do something that scares you.
Whether its asking that cute girl or guy out, calling someone you lost touch with, or even taking a cold shower (that’s right, I take many of them. Explains a lot really…)
You should do something that makes you feel uncomfortable. It could be something simple like trying a new food, or booking something for a thrill.
Mental fortitude comes from when we are exposed to fear. It gets our instincts kicking in, our stress response working. It means that if we regularly do things that make us feel uncomfortable, then when something bad does go wrong: car breaking, loosing our job, stepping in dog shit, it means we have already built a tough mental armour to better cope with it.
If there’s one thing in this life we can count on, its that it isn’t always going to go to plan.
You save money for when something happens, you train your body for events, eat well etc, so why would you not build mental strength and resilience for when the shit hits the fan?
Take a cold shower. You’ll love it.
5 – Stop procrastinating, and start doing.
I wasn’t going to write this part yet (ironically) but I think it needs to be said. Certainly in this industry, if you are trying to make a living through writing, or if its something you want to cross off your bucket list, it isn’t going to do itself.
If I have mentioned the importance of simply showing up, then I’ve mentioned it a million times.
Showing up, getting your arse in front of the computer and opening up the word processor is the hardest part. Its very, very easy to put it off until the next day. But when you’re three months down the line and you haven’t written a single word, then it will be much harder to get back to it in the long run, and then you’ll find its another year, and you haven’t touched that piece of work, crafted that idea, put that story down onto paper, and you never will.
Stop putting it off, grow a pair, and get to work.
I have been working on The Everlife Chronicles for a little while now, and I am very happy to say I have completed the first draft and I am currently working on the second draft.
Its hard, arduous, but I gotta keep up with it. I’m making good progress, and I hope to have the second and maybe third draft completed by the end of the year, with the project being set to be released at the start of next year (depending if I stay indie, or try to go traditional. I’m not sure yet.)
However, you will be the first to know when it is released!
Also, I broke the 1500 twitter mark the other day. And to each and every one of you reading this, sharing my work and consuming it, thank you, from the bottom of my black heart.
As I have mentioned before, I have completed beta reading for one of my twitter writing friends. The story had a lot of promise, and I gave some feedback and constructive criticism. I hope they took it on board. I have known people to completely give up on a project at the first sign of someone not liking it.
If that’s the case, then this industry really isn’t for you.
If you have something you would like to have beta read, please dop mean email below. Let’s talk.
I’ve also been looking into health and lifestyle a little bit, and I think I’m going to reduce my consumption of animal products. I’ve found a very good website with tonnes of fantastic recipes, which I will share below.
While your here, check out the links at the bottom of the page to have a look at my work, mailing list, social media and other kinds of goodies.
Other than that, I hope you’re all doing well. I look forward to hearing off you via email at firstname.lastname@example.org
Until then –